Thanks to my divorce this year, there will be some changes around here. I debated nuking Halftime Lessons altogether, but in the end I decided that the past year offers way too much material to waste.
Besides, if the past year isn’t a collection of the greatest Halftime Lessons ever, I don’t know what would be.
Forgive the construction dust, it’s gonna take me some time to figure out what I can keep, and what I want to say.
If you’re not yet a friend of mine on Facebook, you should really join us over there…there’s fireworks. Come one come all.
Happy New Year. 2011 will be AMAZING.
Jay
PS – Yes, there was some other stuff I had written here before. I have taken it down, but not because ANYONE had anything to say about it. I’m pretty angry, and will be for a very long time about some things that have happened recently. But tonight I went back through my posts deciding what to keep, and decided that being angry here isn’t really what I want this place to be about. Thanks to you all for your input.
Wow! How did I miss this? I am sorry to hear about it, my friend. Hope to see you around soon.
The whole thing is jacked up Jay. I have no divorce stories to share though cause I keep telling him to leave and he won’t. He never has been good at listening to a thing I say.
Jay this sounds like so much fun! I love fireworks! I’ll be tuned in for what comes next. Let us know if you need back up muscle! For now, we’ll bring a cooler and some comfy lawn chairs, sit back and enjoy the show…
Well, Jay, I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. Yeah, I could tell stories. TONS from my days in private practice when I handled dissolution and custody cases. But I gave up on that & decided to become a full-time civil rights attorney because I just couldn’t stomach the divorce/custody clients for one more moment. I couldn’t handle sitting in a room with a mediator watching them argue about when the kids would be where . . . as their new squeeze (the one I told them NOT to bring to court with them) sat in the hallway waiting. I couldn’t handle listening to them advocate for more time with their kids only because it would decrease their child support obligations. I couldn’t stand listening to them whine about how the other parent was to blame for the kids’ poor grades, bed-wetting, thumb-sucking, and need for counseling. After the hell I went through in my own life with my spineless husband, his manipulative & deceitful mother, and his own monstrous ex-wife, none of whom would do the right thing for my own stepdaughter, I was out of the dissolution/custody business in favor of more civilized battles about workplace harassment, discrimination, and retaliation. Oh, and there was that one big case involving a wife who wanted to murder her husband by pulling his feeding tube, even though he wasn’t in a coma or persistent vegetative state or terminally ill. ALL of those cases were preferable to one more mediation session or one more phone conference with a self-centered, self-absorbed so-called “parent.”
Blessings to you this holiday season and I hope that you will be spending at least part of it with your beautiful children. I will only give you this free advice: They are ALL that matters. ALL. The end-all and be-all. The ONLY consideration. Their needs. Their happiness. Their futures. The rest doesn’t mean a damn.
Happy New Year. I love fireworks, btw.
we are all here for ya jay….i think people who use their kids as bargaining chips or frankly, any other way are jerks who don’t deserve the privilege of having kids at all!!!!
Divorce sucks. Those of us that know and have been there will be here for you, supporting you all the way. It’s all about the kiddos, and you know that. They will know that you knew that, one day. Justice will serve.
Blessings to you and to your munchkins.
Hang in there Jay… Im right there with ya… going thru it myself and it sucks. See ya on FB!!
had no idea. so sorry.
Divorce makes me sad. Happily I will not be able to contribute my own stories and I don’t think I should share others. I do look forward to reading more from you though, on whatever topics.
This explains a lot. Of course being handicapped with an 11 year old computer didn’t help me keep in touch enough. I have been fortunate enough to have my Brother-In-Law send me his old PC which is only 4 years old and significantly faster. Hopefully I can bear witness to your new-ness to come.