Thanks for the outpouring of kind words after telling you about the trial next week. I love that about the Blogging community…how people you dont know come in a rush to express their concern and in many cases, empathy.
Today marked another first, and one I’d give anything to never go through again.
After receiving the call to meet the prosecutor for a pre-trial meeting, I found myself in the back corner of a McDonald’s, sitting across from a district attorney and a criminal investigator. And as kids ran by and fries were cooked, the prosecutor produced a picture of my sister.
He was kind, and sympathetic, and explained how sorry he was. He needed me to talk about the best of her at trial. And the underlying message was that if I couldn’t, someone else would have to.
So on Tuesday, I’ll be a witness. Giving testimony. Looking a scumbag in the eye as I tell the jury how my sister wasn’t perfect, but she was loved.
And I’ve asked my family to stay away, since the picture I saw is one of many, and doesn’t belong in the mind of anyone who remembers her spirit and smile.
I once laid on a ski slope at 3am and looked up at every star in the sky, firmly believing I would remember that moment for the rest of my life. I’ve help onto that moment for 20 years now.
Tonight’s the first night I spend with a new memory.
I cannot even imagine what you will be going through over the next several days and what you have been going through the past year. We are here for you, my friend.
not the same circumstances but i did lose my son ( he was 10)
“at the hand of another” when someone decided to run a stop sign and hit us as we were headed to town one day…so i do partly know what you are going through…please know you aren’t alone, i’m so sorry you have to go through this…
Jay, you are honoring your sister by doing the right thing. As a litigator, I understand how hard this experience will be for you, but I also believe that you are a strong individual and you will be happy, looking back, that you carried through. Esp. if you help secure a conviction. So your readers will be thinking about you and sending good thoughts & strength. Know that you have lots of support from us.
jay, My heart and prayers will be with you next week. What an emotional ride. stay stong.
Jay, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart breaks reading all that you are going through. Stay strong, you are the voice of your sister now.